By Patrick Achitabwino:
You have many things more than what you need. You have attained success more than you had ever anticipated. There are multitudes of people that marvel at your success, glorify it and share it for motivation. With confidence you even share your success stories at different fora and conferences. But in as much as you wallow in that success, deep in your heart you encounter a lot of pain, emptiness, you have a rupture in your inner core.
The life you live is a total imbalance – what you are seen on the outside is far from what you are on the inside. In life we always think that we have the world by its tail but that is a manifestation that we are often blinded by an illusory version of success.
Great success must be within your heart then the external success can only complement. It is not strange therefore that there are many lawyers, accountants, engineers, lecturers, head of states, you name them, that are seen to be successful but deep in the marrows of their hearts they bleed with pain. Their careers may be successful but they have not managed to heal their souls. All the external opulence does not heal their inner life which haunts them when they sit alone to reflect over the meaning of life.
We have a wonderful teaching in the book entitled The monk who sold the Ferrari. The teaching says: “It is only when you have mastered the art of loving yourself that you can truly love others. It is only when you have opened your own heart that you can touch the hearts of others. When you feel centred and alive, you are in a much better position to be a better person.”
It is imperative that you change the way you look at success. Materialism alone does not mean success. Success emanates from things that give you great happiness not cosmetic happiness. Driving a posh vehicle while harbouring a heart that is wrecked with marital thorns and work worries is no success. Sleeping on a bed of gold where even sleep eludes you because your mind is troubled with worries and trappings of riches is no success.
Start appreciating the small things that you have around then you will start having that inner bliss that has ever eluded you. Look at people differently, start seeing the positives in them, the greatness in them, the humility in them, then you can complement their many faculties to make the earth a better place to live.
Carl Jung was right, who looks outside; dreams, who looks inside, awakens. Certainly your vision will become clearer only when you can look into your heart.
The great Julian Mantle, a man who was well known for three-thousand-dollar Italian suits that draped his well-fed frame as for his remarkable string of legal victories eventually confessed: “I have come to see that success on the outside means nothing unless you also have success within.
There is a huge difference between well-being and well-off…I have learned that self-mastery and the consistent care of one’s mind, body, and soul are essential to finding one’s highest self and living the life on one’s dreams. How can you care for others if you cannot even care for yourself? How can you do good if you do not even feel good? I can’t love you if I cannot love myself.”
This write up does not state that success on the outside is useless, not at all, it only expounds the position that success on the outside can only be meaningful if it is complemented with success in the heart. Multitudes of perceived successful people long lost happiness because they did not heal their inner self, they did not satisfy their inner hunger. Even with money stashed in their pockets; happiness eludes them, their families are in disarray, their dreams seem tattered but they can only brisk in the world of opulence they created.
Foster C. McClellan gives us words of wisdom and he says: “Make the most of your life by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into the flames of achievement.” The bottom line is, start from the heart. Look deep into your heart, attain the success from within then let it bloom to flower the success on the outside.
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