Worry not of what you can change not


What impedes us from realising our full potential is that we waste a lot of energy and productivity time concentrating on things that we cannot change, things that are high above us and at times things whose impact will have no bearing on us. By concentrating on such issues, we cloud our minds with irrelevant matters instead of providing solutions to problems affecting people and making a difference. Life is all just about making a difference in one’s own individual capacity and spheres.

Reinhold Neibuhr in the Serenity Prayer writes “God, give us the grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be changed and the wisdom to distinguish one from the other”.

We keep on complaining of recession, yet life keeps on going. We keep on worrying abbot El Nino and its continuous changing of names, yet life keeps on rolling. The better thing with life is that no matter the circumstances, a person has the power to adapt to changes and live.


Nick Vujicic, the man without arms and legs, gives us a better lesson on life. Vujicic emphasises that there are some things in life that are out of your control that you cannot change and you have to live with them. The choice that we have though is either to give up or keep on going.

Regardless of circumstances we are in, we need to have the courage to rise above the ashes of pain and discouragement and disappointment. The common denominator is to believe in ourselves. We have to believe in ourselves as aid will never come back to Malawi and that donor taps have dried and never should we ever worry about that. What we have to believe in is our ability to utilise the potential we have to curve a new future of our choice with our own hands.

This is no time to worry about the judgement of others on us which mostly are negative and showcases us as failures and primitive people that can achieve nothing. Other peoples’ judgement often centres on breaking the bridges of your courage that links you to the future of your choice. It is time that, though the circumstances we are in, we provided solutions than wasting time worrying and shedding tears and mourning over the lost glory of the past.


You may not have a university degree but do not worry about that; you can still achieve bigger dreams and eventually recruit even PhD holders in your company. You may have lost a parent or a loved one, that is not the end of everything; look at the other positive side of life and that will ignite passion and belief in you to drive forward. You may have lost a job, it matters less to keep on crying; that may possibly be a springboard for your establishing of a company that could grow beyond the company that fired you. Actually, some companies could not have been there if the owners of such companies had not been fired earlier.

It is imperative to always have an eye that looks at any circumstance in the positive direction. There are always lessons to any incidence encountered. The day Richard Branson was to catch a flight from Beef Island to Puerto Rico, the local Puerto Rican scheduled flight was cancelled. Branson saw that the airport was full of other stranded passengers just like him. He did not waste time complaining, it was the time that he saw the need for setting up Virgin Airways.

Branson says in his autobiography: “I made a few calls to charter companies, and agreed to charter a plane for $2,000 to Puerto Rico. I divided the price by the number of seats, borrowed a backboard, and wrote VIRGIN AIRWAYS: $39 SINGLE FLIGHT TO PUERTO RICO. I walked around the airport and soon filled every seat on the charter plane. As we landed at Puerto Rico, a passenger turned to me and said: Virgin Airways isn’t too bad – smarten up the service a little and you could be in business.”

Years later, Branson brought to light Virgin Airways. Complaining helps nothing. Worrying helps nothing. As Robin Sharma writes in Who will Cry When You Die? one business executive found out that 54 percent of his worries were related to things that would likely never happen; 26 percent were about past actions that could not be changed; eight percent related to the opinions of people whose opinions really did not matter to him; four percent concerned personal health issues that he had since resolved; and only six percent concerned real issues worth of his attention.

This is certainly not too far from all of us. We worry of things that we should not be worrying about.

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